Sometimes in life when we feel overwhelmed by it all, we can have tunnel vision because the thing that is overwhelming us, is all we can think about & see ahead… 🚇However, if we looked outside the tunnel we could see the bigger picture!
How ‘Tunnel Vision’ restricts your perspective in life:
Just like in the photo I snapped used on this post; by not having tunnel vision, we also get to see the bigger picture surrounding the tunnel not just the limited views from inside the tunnel.
A Christmas Poem encapsulating the beauty of the Christmas Season and all its traditions:
Happy Christmas to all my readers!
I decided to write a poem to try to encapsulate the beautiful atmosphere of Christmas time and all the things that work together to make it a special time of year. So, I chose the word ‘CHRISTMAS CHEER’ to use in an acrostic poem – enjoy…
The Power of THANKFULNESS & Top Tips for logging GRATITUDE.
Including a WEEKLY GRATITUDE DIARY free printable, as my gratitude gift for my readers!
Here we are again, it’s that time of year full of events that make everyone stop in their tracks and actually think about what they are thankful for. Nearly everyone enjoys Thanksgiving Day, Christmas Day & New Years Eve and not just for the food and festivities! Whether you know it or not, it’s also because of the high that thankfulness and acknowledging gratitude can bring during this time of year too.
Let’s discover more about this together and at the end of the blog I will give you tips and tricks on how you can incorporate the ‘power of thankfulness‘ into your everyday life not just on specific days like Thanksgiving and Christmas Time. I will also give each reader A FREE PRINTABLE ‘WEEKLY GRATITUDE DIARY’ SHEETas my gratitude gift just for you!! 😉
You know those sayings such as:
“It lifted my spirits!”
“I’m on cloud 9!”
“It just feels right!”
“I know it’s time to let go and move on” etc?
Well they come from that very sense of uplifting that certain positive emotions can bring – feelings such as being in love, hopefulness, faithfulness, gratitude, forgiveness, peacefulness etc. This is because certain emotions connect us back to our souls, our essence our natural states of being! But how?…
It is through really embracing these emotions and letting them take over us (take over us as in accepting them and being overwhelmed or consumed by them) that they then become a ‘state of being’ rather than just a feeling and then we are literally able to give our spirits ‘a lift’ (like the difference between loving someone with the emotion love and actually being IN love with someone, consumed by it and living in a state of constant love so you always feel on that high of being in love and the high of feeling loved back etc).
This is what happens on Thanksgiving Day, Christmas Day, our birthdays, etc; we embrace the feeling of thankfulness/gratitude so much we go through the day in a heightened state of thankfulness and we are able to ride out the festivities on a high, up on cloud 9, full of smiles and joy in our hearts!
Thankfulness, love, gratitude, peace – these are all emotions everyone can experience. Take love as an example, when you soak in that emotion and embrace it fully and let go and just let yourself be swept away by love, you can then live in a state of being with that emotion. So when you are living with your soul ‘being’ being at one with love (at one as in fully embraced it & been overwhelmed and taken over by it) you are grinning, happy, bouncy, smile instead of get stressed, uplifted and your soul feels alive and happy through just being with love. It makes you view the world through rose-tinted glasses!
Or peace for example. When you are comfortable with who you truly are in your soul and feel at peace with yourself, then you can live in a state of ‘inner peace’which lets you live in contentment and changes your reactions to situations. Inner peace fights against letting others actions affect your peace of mind – yes you can disagree with people’s actions or even find them hurtful, but it is inner peace that then speaks to your soul and tells it:
“Yes that hurt, yes they were wrong, yes I might cry – but I refuse to let them make me angry or bitter, I wont give them the satisfaction or control of taking away my inner peace. It wasn’t right and I don’t agree with it but take deep breaths and I’ll try to stay grounded and calm with the peace I already have inside me.”
Thankfulness is the same. Living in a state of gratitude makes you see the good in everything even though there is so much bad in the world to see along side it, the bad doesn’t overshadow the good. It makes you see a positive for every negative.
You know that saying “There is always a silver lining” well living in a state of thankfulness opens your eyes more to actually see them. It makes you appreciate the small things even though you acknowledge the disappointment of living without the bigger things. I wrote a blog post all about this entitled: Remember the small stuff!(click on this blog title to open the life reflection up in another tab.)
Top Tips on how can you keep that ‘high’ or ‘joy’ from embracing thankfulness at Thanksgiving & Christmas Time, for the rest of the year too…
TIP 1 – Use a Gratitude App
Well one thing that really helped me in the last few years was downloading a gratitude app on my mobile, I use ‘Attitudes of Gratitude Journal’ by Vista Media. Each day it pops up and asks me “What were you grateful for today?” and after you type in your answer it will then pop up a quote on thankfulness/gratitude to encourage you on your gratitude journey.
The app stores all your answers so on darker days you can sit and read through your answers to remind yourself of all there is to be thankful for and shine a light when it’s needed most. A great added feature on this app is a password protection option to keep your diary private if others use your phone.
TIP 2 – Writing a Gratitude Diary or Gratitude List
If it helps you to write things down then I’d suggest a ‘Gratitude Diary’. I’m so grateful for my readers, I’ve only gone and created a free GRATITUDE DIARY printable just for you, as my way of saying ‘Thank You’ for reading and following my blog.
Just click here to download the gratitude diary sheet, print it, then put it up on the wall or somewhere else noticeable to you like by the side of your bed or by the kettle. Then each time you see it or each time you use the kettle, you write down things to be thankful for that day.
TIP 3 – Taking a 2 minute STILLNESS SHOT
Yes I made up this name, but hey just roll with it… You need 2 minutes out of your day, you choose when is best for you. For example: set your alarm 2 minutes earlier in the mornings and spend that 2 minutes being still, maybe you want to lay down, or prop yourself up on the pillows and sit up – what ever position suits. Close your eyes and just be still. Stop your mind from thinking about getting ready, or the meeting you have at work or all the things on your ‘to do’ list. Stop yourself going over things in your mind, like the fight you had with your partner the night before or yelling at the kids.
STOP your body and be STILL!STOP your mind and be STILL! Just relax and listen and concentrate on your breathing, or your heartbeat, the ticking of a clock or to the birds chirping outside the window. This calms your soul amongst the stresses of the day still to come and re-centres our spiritual being by simply ‘just being’.
End the 2 minutes or however long you spend doing this, by saying some things you are thankful for, I find this more powerful when I say them out loud but you can also say them in your head if you prefer or if you don’t want to disturb others etc. Over time, see what differences it can make to your day or attitude by continuing to start off your day with stillness for your soul and a spirit of thankfulness!
If for others like myself, spirituality through a faith does play a part in your life, then I’d suggest saying prayers of thankfulness, as this is another way of releasing your list of things you are thankful for. Also, saying them out loud and proclaiming them into the atmosphere is a great way of changing the rooms energy/feel/spiritual frequency. Or in your ‘Prayer Journal’ include writing down prayers of thankfulness for each days blessings etc alongside the things you are still praying for.
This a great way of changing your focus from solely being about what you need and are asking for. Instead you are acknowledging the things you need but being lifted in gratitude for remembering and focusing on all the things you do have to say thank you for. Gratitude is a beautiful spiritual frequency to live on.
TIP 4 – Gratitude / Thankfulness Quotes, Affirmations and Mindfulness.
Another thing that has helped me on this fulfilling journey through the power of gratitude, is reading words that encourage thankfulness and get you to focus on the good not the bad. This has especially helped me in changing my attitude and attention I gave to talking about pain and every time someone asked me how I was, the need to go into the ins and outs and list all the daily struggles of living with chronic illness.
Gratitude, thankfulness and inner peace really made me change my perspective, what I give my energy too and focusing on the good not the bad has brought me to such a happier place for my soul and spirit. The pain is still there but I totally engage with it in a different way by not letting it consume me, my words and thoughts. It wasn’t easy and it took time to break the habit of giving it so much of my energy, but I’m so thankful for the new perspective gratitude has given me!
The words we choose to read and speak had a direct effect on our thoughts, mental health, attitude, reactions, what we decide to speak about etc. I talk about the power of the way we speak to ourselves in a post I encourage you to read to become more aware of the language you use and how you speak about things. (Click HERE to open post in another tab to read it.)
I have a board on Pinterest called ‘Affirmations, Christian Meditation, Mindfulness & Mental Health’ (click below to find it on Pinterest)
Here I have a collection of things that I declare out loud at diffrent times of the day such as while the kettle is boiling, say to myself as I get ready for the day, read as I’m in a waiting room etc. Affirmations of gratefulness, being thankful, choosing to focus on the positives while declaring what i want to change for the better to help with the negative.
That is the POWER of THANKFULNESS that we can practice everyday not just on Thanksgiving Day! Thank you for reading, its one of the things im grateful for today 😉
Life lessons the season of Autumn / Fall can bring to all… and how to stay positive through seasonal changes.
Like most things in life, how we experience the change of season and weather, is down to our personal perspective. This post is all about purposely choosing a positive perspective as we transition into a new season…
Believe me, as someone with chronic illness that is worsened in the colder weather I know oh too well the amount of dread the colder weather months can be met with and the effect of SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder) depression that seasonally comes in the dark Autumn and Winter months.
However, learning to see the beautiful life lessons of the season helped me to embrace the change instead of dreading it – as it can’t be changed through dread or worry so might as well be enjoyed for its positives even though it brings along negatives. ‘Balance’and ‘every cloud has a silver lining’come to mind.
“What possible lessons could the Autumn / Fall give me?” I hear you ask.
Let me explain…
The Autumn/Fall trees are about to show us how beautiful changes can be:
The season change is inevitable and can’t be skipped, so instead of dreading the change and worrying about it, lets embrace the change and remind ourselves that change can actually bring new beauty for us to see.
The trees are affected by cold weather too, it makes their leaves lose their green colour and then fall off altogether. Yes the trees can’t change the changes that are to come, so instead they carry off the differences as a beautiful coat change for all to admire.
Putting away the old, to make way for the new:
many people have a ‘winter wardrobe’ and a ‘summer wardrobe’ and as the seasons change so does their wardrobe options. As Autumn/Fall draws in, our summer wardrobes are put away for another year, but it also gives you the chance of sorting out some of those clothes that you want to give way to charity or loved ones.
Then as we get our wardrobes for colder weather out we are reminded of items we may have forgotten about and we can look forward to wearing in the colder weather.
Don’t get me wrong I’m a sunshine lover so I’d choose summer sandal weather over cold weather any day! However, I am looking forward to wearing my new winter boots, even though I got them second-hand, they are new to my winter wardrobe and give me items I’m happy to start using.
It can be something as small as getting to wear your soft leather clothes again or a warm scarf you got as a Christmas pressent last year and had forgotten about. These small things with the right sprinkle of gratitude can help bring a smile while we transit through the season change we don’t normally enjoy.
What appears dead & cold, can once again come to life after a season of rejuvenation:
The reminder that even though things appear to have died from the cold Autumn/Fall weather, such as frost and other bad conditions – once conditions are improved, they can once again bloom with life in what we thought were lifeless places. Where there was brown there is the possibility of green life once again. Out of soil that looks barren can spring new life again after a harsh season of weather, once conditions have improved.
So remember Spring and Summer are still yet to come when we can bloom and thrive once again. See Autumn/Fall and Winter as your season of rejuvenation, your time to cocoon before you fly, your time to snuggle up in the warmth counting your blessings and seeing the beauty that Autumn/Fall still have to bring.
Remember in the Autumn/Fall that life can still be breathed into our cold bones!
It reminds me of the Bible Passage Ezekiel 37 ‘The Valley of Dry Bones’(Click to open in new window to read passage) where God shows his power by breathing life into lifeless dry bones, so they would live again. Like the House of Israel in this passage we may say “Our bones are dried up and our hope is gone; we are cut off.”because the cold can affect our bones and winter hibernation can make us feel cut off to the world.
However, do not forget the lesson of the season and that God can breathe life into us “I will put my Spirit in you and you will live” and we can have a blessed season ahead counting our blessings not just focusing on the cold and dark, but purposely bringing in light and hope and gratitude!
For those who aren’t spiritual to identify with this need for Gods spiritual breath to resuscitate us at times, maybe your breath of fresh air will be brought into the cold season through loved ones, warm log fires, music to lift your spirits and all the small things that make you smile! I encourage you to read my post “Remember the small things in life!” (click to open blog post in new window/tab.)
A lesson in perseverance through the colder seasons in life, to then bloom in life once again with better times ahead.
Just like the cold can torment greenery, plant life, etc… We can also be tormented by the cold, the depression of winter, the weighing of dark nights, the lack of sunlight etc. Yet, we need to purposely remind ourselves that after torment, can come a life of contentment once again.
How to purposely choose a positive perspective, as we transition into a new season!
So as we enter into the Autumn/Fall season have a smile on your face waiting for the beauty of the trees as they change their coats, the newness of our winter wardrobes, the perseverance as we cocoon for the season knowing we will bloom once again in the change of season to come after Winter…
No matter how cold, dark or bad some days seem – there is always something to be grateful for. Even if it’s just having a roof over your head. Remembering what we are thankful for can help weigh out the negatives of Autumn/Fall with a grateful perspective looking out for those small silver linings to the dark Winter clouds!
Why not comment and let us know your favourite thing for the Autumn/Fall season, to help everyone to adjust and look out for the seasons beauty…
HAVE AN ENJOYABLE AUTUMN/FALL EVERYONE! FROM Helen’s Journey xx
Day 2 of sharing a quote to live by and the reasons why I chose it
So just what is the ‘3 Day Quote Challenge’? I hear you ask… well it’s when each day you choose a quote to share and explain your reasons for choosing it – I’m always up for fun with words! 😉
So here is my quote for Day 2:
This quote is really poignant for me as I really am in a season of transition for mind, body & soul;
Discovering new things
Expanding my knowledge
Researching the unknown
Questioning all I’ve known
Growing as a person
Expanding my capacity
Confirming who I am
Adapting to the new
Reaffirming all I stand for
Withdrawing <not from you my lovely readers, but from a bad situation/group of people and one of my medications too 😉 >
It’s a much-needed reminder that even if something hurts it doesn’t mean you are injured too badly to carry on.
A reminder that even if you feel broken and that life has fallen to pieces – that all those pieces will still fit together to make a new puzzle, that although different from the old, can still be beautiful! ❤
Each day I’m going to be nominating 3 others to join in with the Quote Challenge fun. So on Day 2, I nominate:
I love this quote as it’s through changing my focus from what I can’t do due to health conditions, to focusing on what I can still do – that helped me find a more positive outlook, a re-tuned perspective and an appreciation for the small things in life!
I hope to you, whether you have a chronic illness or other limiting factors in life or not, it really is a reminder of life being what you make it no matter what hand your dealt.
It also brings to mind the quote “When life gives you lemons, make lemonade” or is that cheating throwing another quote into the mix? Always the rebel hey 😉
Each day I’m going to be nominating 3 others to join in with the Quote Challenge fun. So Day 1 I nominate:
Everyone has giants to face at different times in life, some bigger than others, but all give you the chance to prove to yourself just how strong you really are!
Today I visited ‘The Custard Factory’ a creative hub in the heart of England’s 2nd city of Birmingham, UK. If you watched the Commonwealth Games handover ceremony, you would have seen local filmmaker Daniel Alexander’svideo introducing the world to Birmingham! It had a TV audience of up to one billionpeople from all around the world! I’m so proud to call it my hometown ❤
(Click on the filmmakers name to go to his website, or the word ‘video’ to go and watch the video mentioned)
As I walked through ‘The Custard Factory’ with creative touches to decor all around me, I looked up and standing there looking down on all who pass by is this enormous statue of a giant, who appears like he has been made with chiseled rocks or out of a tree trunk.
Yes if you look really close, that’s me, the tiny person at the bottom looking up at the giant that stood over me. 📏
Yes he is intimidating is size and also in appearance, as he looks likes sturdy solid rock. I certainly wasn’t afraid of him falling on top of me, he appeared far too strong and superior for that.
In my creative and imaginative mind, it reminded me straight away of the story of ‘David & Goliath’ which for those that don’t know is a Bible story, which like most has a ‘moral of the story’ meaning for Bible believers and non-believers alike = A universal lesson in winning improbable victories.
It’s a story to give us courage when we are facing a scary giant in life. An account that speaks to our soul and reminds us how capable and strong we actually are!
For believers, a lesson in how victorious we can be when we align ourselves with what God wants us to do. Also, how in weakness we become strong through God’s Holy Spirit equipping us with exactly what sling and stone we need for the battle ahead…
Life lessons from ‘David & Goliath’ for FACING LIFE’S GIANTS:
⭐ You are never too young to face your giants and defeat them – even if they are a trained destroyer, prepared for battle since birth like Goliath. Don’t let others limit you because they pass judgement on you being too young, just like Saul did to David:
“And Saul said to David, Thou art not able to go against this Philistine to fight with him: for thou art but a youth, and he a man of war from his youth.” 1 Samuel 17:33
⭐ You don’t need matched experience, for when you have confidence in your given abilities and talents, you can face someone with a wealth of experience even if you are the underdog on paper.
⭐ When the 9 foot 9 inches Goliath scares everyone else around you, don’t let their fear convince you that you must be afraid too. David held his own ground independently to all the others who were too afraid to.
⭐ Even if no one else is willing to challenge the giant you still can. David had the confidence to challenge Goliath and win, when no one else did.
⭐ You can perfect your skill using a sling and win – even if everyone else who thinks they are ‘above’ a simple shepherd, uses swords. Belief doesn’t have a hierarchy or class system, you either have enough belief to think you have a chance of winning or you don’t. You either think God will make it work out okay or you don’t believe he can.
⭐ Even if the giant has protective armour all around it weighing at least 155 pounds like Goliath’s armour, that doesn’t mean you can not locate their weak spot and penetrate past their defences, just like David did to hit Goliath in just the right spot to knock him down to the floor defenseless.
⭐ David and his stone in sling, were against a giant armed with a 6.5foot spear. He didn’t let the small resources he had in comparison, put him off the battle. Instead he made the most out of what he had.
⭐ This is another way in which we can defeat some of the giants that overshadow our minds and thoughts – we need to be content in what we have in life and make the most out of them!
How to be as confident & bold as David, in defeating your life’s Goliath:
Even if your giants taunt you as you face them, trying to make you feel inferior, just like Goliath did to David. Remember who you are and where your power lies (David was confident in his strength because he knew he had God on his side empowering him to win, even when all the odds were against him).
David was willing to step out in faith and face the giant, as he felt that it was what God called him to do and he wanted to show what God was capable of through his actions. He was confident not only facing him, but actually throwing the stone to defeat him.
We need this confidence in life so that when we are faced with life’s many giants, we are able to actually throw our stones and not be frozen still in fear!
For me personally it is a reminder that nothing is too big for God to help me through and to bring me to a place of victory on the other side. Maybe for you its a reminder of just how strong you really are, to have faced so many giants in your lifetime and have still found a way to be victorious in life? 💪💪💪
This week marked ‘International Women’s Day’ & ‘Mother’s Day’ ~ Day’s for celebrating all things woman!
A lot of people concentrate on the wonderful job we have of carrying human life form inside us, being a mother, a life giver, a wife, a homemaker etc. However, if you are single and childless do not feel any less of a woman or feel uncelebrated, unrecognised or insignificant! These days ARE for you too!!
I decided to write a poem to encourage those of us who are single and childless to still embrace days we feel highlight our ‘don’t have’s’ and instead celebrate all that we do have – after all we still have the power of being a woman! 😉
“We are woman.
We are love, we are care, we are nurture, we are encouragement, we are strength, we are kindness.
We are inclusive, captivating, patient and able.
We are the wiping away of tears from our own unfulfilled yearnings of motherhood, as we look after and parent the offspring of others.
We are capable of not wanting our own children but still loving children and spending time with them in enjoyment and care.
We have that capacity to love beyond surnames, bond beyond family ties, join beyond blood bonds, unite beyond differences.
We are time givers, hug givers, love givers, caregivers, advice givers.
We smile with strength through our sorrows.
Showing our scars, these war wounds are our beauty marks.
We are Woman”
~ Poem By Helen’s Journey
How these things can’t take away your ability of being a loyal partner or your maternal instincts to look after a child:
A woman who is able to love, nurture, care for and be there for a child that isn’t her own biological offspring – is still fulfilling the motherly role. Maybe you are an aunt, a sister, godmother or without an official title attached; simply a maternal caregiver to a child.
That ability isn’t because you carried the child inside you for 9 months or isn’t because of the bond created as you gave birth to them and held them close. Instead, that ability to look after a child like they are your own comes from being a woman, that built-in maternal capacity to nurture and look after others.
It is in the power of ‘Womanhood’ not just of ‘Motherhood’!
As child-less women we can still be an amazing parent – only it isn’t to our own biological children.
As single women we still get to be that amazing partner you would be as a wife – only it isn’t within a marriage, it can be in any of the other relationships you do have in your life:
with a best friend,
a friendship group,
your church life group that meets up each week or once a month,
the support group you’re a part of,
at the place where you volunteer with a group of people needing a supportive relationship in their life as its lacking.
The list could carry on, but I’m sure it’s got you thinking of your own lives and the relationships you have built up personally.
If you’re thinking you don’t really have anyone close, don’t worry – as you have every day of your future to change that. Even smiling at strangers is handing out that natural nurturing and care giving gene within.
We don’t need the title ‘wife’ to be able to maintain lasting partnerships!
We have the capability of building strong, loyal, reliable relationships where you stick together, helping and supporting each other through life. Making nice memories sharing in life moments together along the way.
No it isn’t a romantic relationship as in a marriage. But that doesn’t mean we can not exercise the qualities of a wife before or if ever, we actually become a wife.
The point is, a single, childless woman can still emulate all of those maternal and wife like qualities before she gets those official titles or even if she never does.
I know if I never have my own children here on earth with me, that although not the same, I still got to experience glimpses of motherhood through my involvement and relationships with my nephews (and my ‘soon to arrive’ niece in the future), God children, children in my wider family and children of friends. Not forgetting all the children I have taught in drama sessions, after school clubs, activity days etc.
I love to love, to care, to educate, to encourage, to engage and to nurture. I couldn’t wait for the official title of ‘mother’ to be a maternal woman, because it was already a part of who I am. I can’t wait until I get the title ‘wife’ before I commit to a partnership with loyalty, time and care – because I’d of missed out on so many beautiful non-romantic relationships I have in my life, esp my loyal partnership with my best mate.
Blood only gives you the title ‘Mother’, it doesn’t make you motherly – your actions do that:
One of my Aunties who doesn’t have her own children, showed me what it was to mother a child who wasn’t your biological child. As growing up she looked after us, invested time in us, listened to us, played with us, educated us and gave us enjoyable life experiences together going on day trips etc. she made the choice to grow and nurture those maternal instincts with us and we all loved her even more for it!
I also call some Mothers of my longtime friends, not only by their name but with Mommy in there too: eg: ‘Mommy Sonia’. Why? Because for over 20 years these strong women had me in their homes like I was their child, yes that includes telling me off if needed! lol.
In return ‘Mommy Sonia’ introduces me as her ‘other daughter’ and my Mom introduces her daughter as her own too – we’re family like that without the shared blood or genes and that is the whole point I’m making in this post.
Even Jesus did this as an example to set for today, He was dying so he told his best mates to now look after his Mom like she was their own mother and told his Mom his best mates were now her children – It’s special to still do this today in our own lives, if we are childless or motherless, to adopt our own families in life!
John 19 verse 25 – 27 (NIV translation)
“When Jesus saw his mother there, and the disciple whom he loved standing nearby, he said to her, “Woman, here is your son,”
and to the disciple,“Here is your mother.” From that time on, this disciple took her into his home.”
So for us women who don’t have children for whatever reasons in life – Mother’s Day is still for us, and a celebration of the strength we have to give motherly love and care to children who aren’t our own.
Happy Mothers Day to all the women out there in whatever role they have in parenting or nurturing children ❤
Is today a hard day for you as you are a ‘Mother of an Angel’ or ‘Daughter to an Angel’? I encourage you to read this affirmation blog post I did to remind every one of how AMAZING they are (Click on blog title below to go to the post):
HOW TO GIVE YOURSELF A BREAK when life makes you HARD ON YOURSELF!
A free printable affirmation, to encourage self-love, forgiveness & letting go…
Why is negativity so bad for you?
Being too hard on ourselves has damaging effects, not only on our mental health but also our physical health too. It is scientifically proven that negative thinking and negative thoughts worsen a person’s health, lowers immunity and affects the brains function. Chronic stress, worry and negative emotions can unbalance our hormones and the brain needs a certain level of specific hormones to create the feeling of ‘happiness’.
That is why ‘self love’ or ‘being kind to yourself’ is sooooooooo important in life, esp when you are already in ill-health or struggle mentally with issues of self or low mood.
It’s time for a dose of Self-Love again!
My regular readers will know I suffer from chronic ill-health from Fibromyalgia, Chronic Fatigue Syndrome and about 10 other conditions that decided to jump on in for the ride! lol. So for me I think of self-love as another one of my medicines, hence me saying ‘a dose’ of self-love – IT’S TIME TO GET A HIT OF SELF LOVE RIGHT WHERE ITS NEEDED! 😉
In my blog post ““YOU ARE…” A SELF-LOVE AFFIRMATION TO REMIND US HOW AMAZING WE ARE” I cover the importance of speaking positively about ourselves and include an affirmation of positive things to say about yourself to remind you how amazing you are (If you haven’t had chance to read it yet, I highly recommend you follow the link at the end of this post)
However, at certain times in life we make bad decisions, we may hurt people in the process, we may get hurt ourselves. This post is about using self-love in these times of life too, in order to not be so hard on ourselves.
I’m sure all of us can think of something that we really beat ourselves up over or that we continue to be hard on ourselves about over and over again no matter how long ago it was.
STOP! It’s time to stop beating yourself up!
FREE PRINTABLE AFFIRMATION:
I wrote the following affirmation and drew the doodles too, that I want to share with you to help you stop being so hard on yourself and finding a way to go forward positively.
i’ve made the affirmation image a FREE PRINTABLE for my readers. You could print this out and use it as a bookmark, put it by your mirror where you get ready each day or by your noticeboard where you boil the kettle. Just placing it somewhere to remind you to give yourself that much-needed positivity boost, dose of self-love, self-care hug, self-help shot – whatever you want to call it, as the list of positive affects goes on…
We need to look after ourselves the best we can to try to feel the best we can inside and out. I’m not saying it’s easy, I’m just saying it’s important we try to do it and daily! Look at it like me, like medicine or just another supplement or multivitamin we need to take each day. Choose to feed yourself with self-love and bring positives steps going forward, out of negative steps of the past!
Remind yourself no matter how stressful life gets you have the ability to stay stable and stand tall even when so many things are trying to make you fall down.
Also the fragile nature of life and the ability to make new traditions as well as honouring the old.
Remember the small stuff in life that have the ability to bring so much more joy than the big.
The ability to stay calm and not give in to stress (no matter how tangled the christmas tree lights are)
This blog is a gentle prompt to enjoy time with your loved ones, making precious memories and treasuring having them in your life. Hold them dear & be grateful for all the blessings they bring or challenges they bring – as they both make an impact on your life.
Generally treasure the people you spend most time with and all those that make contact with you just to say “Hello, how are you?”
A couple of days ago, I attended the sad event of my uncle’s funeral. It really touched me the amount of people who came out in love for him. They had the crematorium full to the brim with people even standing in all the aisles & even out into the entrance hall as there wasn’t enough seats or standing space for the many whom came to pay their respects.
The eulogies from his younger brother & his friends were a tribute to the man he was, as a family member, husband and as a friend. Oh how loved he was & how missed he will be!
As they spoke of his warm smile, his football banter, his friendship, his older brother love, his strength through illness, his private character being open in loyalty and other honourable things about him as a man ~ it was all a reminder that it’s how you make others feel that they remember, how you look at them, how you interact with them & the care that you show them.
As well as working towards our careers, our health, our fitness, our businesses, etc – we need to remember to work at our relationships, put work into our interactions with others and pay attention to how we are making others feel. After all when we are gone these are the things that people will remember us for!
What better 2018 goal can we set for ourselves than to work on the legacy we leave behind, the love and care we leave behind in loved ones hearts and the moments and memories that will be shared about us after our departure from this life.
I wrote a poem regarding how we treat others with gentle reminders – for how we go about daily life does affect others. I’d love for you to read it here: NEVER JUDGE A BOOK BY ITS COVER (click title to go to poem.)
~ This blog post was written in fond memory of my Uncle Terry; Terence McMahon who put up a brave, private, humble and courageous fight against cancer till the end. RIP. ~
Listed below are my Christmas Reflections Collection which are actually relevant to be read any time of the year to reflect upon life, our behaviours, attitudes and perspectives. Read them below by clicking on the titles in blue of the individual reflection you’d like to read:
Welcome to another of my ‘Christmas Reflections’, inspired by my own Christmas Photographs.
So today’s countdown is 2 days until we wake up on Christmas Morning. Yes only this weekend to go! This excitement is a lift for some who sail high on the Christmas Spirit, yet a drag for others who have so much to do they wish it was two weeks left before the big day not two days!
However it makes you feel, I invite you to join me each day this Christmas season, as I share daily Christmas Reflections and of course one of my accompanying Christmas Photos that helped inspire the reflections! (I just love taking photos & sharing pictures lol)
Today’s image brings the Christmas reflection of keeping old traditions but not forgetting to make new ones! As it shows my old angel and my new one:
Now we all have our own Christmas Traditions when the Christmas season is here once again. Whether it’s the decorations, whats on the dinner menu, or whose job it is to wake the grandparents up from their naps as we are impatiently waiting for them to wake up so we can open up our presents 😉
Even when it comes to our Christmas Trees; there are some that cant wait to get it up and put it up before December even arrives, while others stick to the tradition of putting the tree up 12 days before Christmas. Then there is the traditions of who decorates it and how, if you stick to a colour scheme and specific design or just put things on however and wherever you feel like it.
One of the biggies in our house growing up was whose homemade angel was going to go on the top of the tree and who would put it up there as the last decoration to go on.
Now I made mine when I was 5 years old, as I’m sure you can tell by looking at it, so it sure took a battering over the next 25 years as it continued to take its turn on top of the tree. It is now retired from tree topping duty and is in my memory box resting its wings.
However, now living separately from my family home, the big decision was: Would I rigidly stick to tradition and place my very aged angel on top of my own tree?
While the angel rotation tradition was enjoyable and that is what I fondly think of when I look at my angel, I had to make the decision to start a new tradition and replace it with a modern angel and certainly a much younger model 😉
As you can see from the picture of the angel I made when I was 5, the years have taken its toll on it and the aging process like for ourselves defiantly shows – with malting hair and a hunched over back.
Well if you’re bending over backwards to stick to old traditions that have you breaking your back to do them the old way, even though they stress you out as the old ways just aren’t practical anymore – then maybe its time to replace them with new traditions?! Sometimes change is the best way forward… “Out with the OLD and in with the NEW!”
So todays countdown is 6 days until we wave in Christmas Day. For some half the fun is counting down the days, in contrast others may find counting down the days really isn’t a fun activity.
However it makes you feel, I invite you to join me each of the 12 days till Christmas, as I share daily Christmas Reflections and of course an accompanying Christmas image! (I just love taking photos & sharing pictures lol)
Today’s chosen image is of a giant Ferrero Rocher:
I’m not sure the photo does it justice, it really was super sized! But is bigger always better?
Some strive for the biggest christmas ever each year. They spend so much time and energy on making things super sized and making them amazing for people to look at and experience.
Sometimes the phase “Good things come in small packages” is true. It’s the small touches that will stand out to people. So even though you may be going all out to create a Christmas extravaganza, which is totally up to you but id say pay attention to the small things too – as they often touch people the most and what they will pass on to others.
Lets remember the importance of smallness amongst this big Christmas season!