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“Keep OLD Traditions but don’t forget to make NEW ones!” Day 10 of 12 Days of CHRISTMAS REFLECTIONS with HELEN’S JOURNEY 

Welcome to another of my ‘Christmas Reflections’, inspired by my own Christmas Photographs.

So today’s countdown is 2 days until we wake up on Christmas Morning. Yes only this weekend to go! This excitement is a lift for some who sail high on the Christmas Spirit, yet a drag for others who have so much to do they wish it was two weeks left before the big day not two days!

However it makes you feel, I invite you to join me each day this Christmas season, as I share daily Christmas Reflections and of course one of my accompanying Christmas Photos that helped inspire the reflections! (I just love taking photos & sharing pictures lol)

Today’s image brings the Christmas reflection of keeping old traditions but not forgetting to make new ones! As it shows my old angel and my new one:

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Now we all have our own Christmas Traditions when the Christmas season is here once again. Whether it’s the decorations, whats on the dinner menu, or whose job it is to wake the grandparents up from their naps as we are impatiently waiting for them to wake up so we can open up our presents 😉

Even when it comes to our Christmas Trees; there are some that cant wait to get it up and put it up before December even arrives, while others stick to the tradition of putting the tree up 12 days before Christmas. Then there is the traditions of who decorates it and how, if you stick to a colour scheme and specific design or just put things on however and wherever you feel like it.

One of the biggies in our house growing up was whose homemade angel was going to go on the top of the tree and who would put it up there as the last decoration to go on.

Now I made mine when I was 5 years old, as I’m sure you can tell by looking at it, so it sure took a battering over the next 25 years as it continued to take its turn on top of the tree. It is now retired from tree topping duty and is in my memory box resting its wings.

christmas angel made by helens journey aged 5

However, now living separately from my family home, the big decision was: Would I rigidly stick to tradition and place my very aged angel on top of my own tree?

While the angel rotation tradition was enjoyable and that is what I fondly think of when I look at my angel, I had to make the decision to start a new tradition and replace it with a modern angel and certainly a much younger model 😉

As you can see from the picture of the angel I made when I was 5, the years have taken its toll on it and the aging process like for ourselves defiantly shows – with malting hair and a hunched over back.

Well if you’re bending over backwards to stick to old traditions that have you breaking your back to do them the old way, even though they stress you out as the old ways just aren’t practical anymore – then maybe its time to replace them with new traditions?! Sometimes change is the best way forward… “Out with the OLD and in with the NEW!”

Please join me for tomorrows CHRISTMAS REFLECTION

Each days chosen Christmas picture will also be shared on my INSTAGRAM  and my PINTEREST accounts too, so click the links and keep up to date with my Christmas Picture CHEER 😉 

Dont worry if you missed earlier reflections as you can click on them below to have a quick read of them: 

Day 1: “DON’T GET YOUR TINSEL IN A TANGLE

Day 2: “PRESENCE over PRESENTS

Day 3: “LIFE is FRAGILE like a Christmas Ornament”

Day 4:“Even Sand can STAND, when it is designed to fall!”

Day 6:“Trying to stay STABLE, while we celebrate the Stable” 

Day 7:“Remember the small stuff”

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“Remember the small stuff” Day 7 of 12 Days of CHRISTMAS REFLECTIONS with HELEN’S JOURNEY 

So todays countdown is 6 days until we wave in Christmas Day. For some half the fun is counting down the days, in contrast others may find counting down the days really isn’t a fun activity.

However it makes you feel, I invite you to join me each of the 12 days till Christmas, as I share daily Christmas Reflections and of course an accompanying Christmas image! (I just love taking photos & sharing pictures lol)

Today’s chosen image is of a giant Ferrero Rocher:

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I’m not sure the photo does it justice, it really was super sized! But is bigger always better?

Some strive for the biggest christmas ever each year. They spend so much time and energy on making things super sized and making them amazing for people to look at and experience.

Sometimes the phase “Good things come in small packages” is true. It’s the small touches that will stand out to people. So even though you may be going all out to create a Christmas extravaganza, which is totally up to you but id say pay attention to the small things too – as they often touch people the most and what they will pass on to others.

Lets remember the importance of smallness amongst this big Christmas season!

Please join me tomorrow for Day 7 of 12 Days of CHRISTMAS REFLECTIONS

Dont worry if you missed earlier reflections as you can click on them below to have a quick read of them: 

Day 1: “DON’T GET YOUR TINSEL IN A TANGLE

Day 2: “PRESENCE over PRESENTS

Day 3: “LIFE is FRAGILE like a Christmas Ornament”

Day 4: “Even Sand can STAND, when it is designed to fall!”

Day 6: “Trying to stay STABLE, while we celebrate the Stable”

Each days chosen Christmas picture will also be shared on my INSTAGRAM  and my PINTEREST accounts too, so click the links and keep up to date with my Christmas Picture CHEER 😉   

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“Trying to stay STABLE, while we celebrate the Stable!” Day 6 of 12 Days of CHRISTMAS REFLECTIONS with HELEN’S JOURNEY 

So todays countdown is 7 days until we wake up and it’s December 25th. For some the excitement of the season mounts as the days get closer, but for others it’s a real strain knowing they have less days than yesterday to complete everything.

However it makes you feel, I invite you to join me each of the 12 days till Christmas, as I share daily Christmas Reflections and of course an accompanying Christmas image! (I just love taking photos & sharing pictures lol)

Todays chosen image below is of a nativity scene, complete with stable but no star 😉

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Some of you may have noticed, that there wasn’t a post yesterday for day 5 of the Christmas Countdown posts, that’s because I had a bad Fibromyalgia flare (the chronic health condition I suffer with) and my body just said “NO!”

Now I could be hard on myself, make me feel like a let down and a failure as I wasn’t able to stick to the commitment I made etc. Now this is always a battle, as inside I’m still the same girl as before Fibromyalgia restricted me physically and my character is very driven, determined and committed to getting what I want or achieving goals I’ve set myself. However, physically, my body doesn’t give me the privilege of being that girl anymore, it doesn’t care what I want or what goal I had set myself, if it can’t manage it at that moment then my body isn’t doing it and if I try to do it then the punishment is 1000 times worse.

I’ve struggled with pacing as the girl inside me doesn’t want to listen to my body, pay attention to pain levels or have restrictions. Yet at certain times you have no choice – yesterday was 1 of those days!

So instead of stressing I decided to try to stay stable. No not the stable in the picture, that was just me enjoying doing a play on words for ya’ll 😉

STABLE =

  • (of an object or structure) not likely to give way or overturn; firmly fixed.
  • (of a person) sane and sensible; not easily upset or disturbed

I always think of things both mentally and physically, as I know too well what its like being restricted or affected beyond your control in both aspects of life. So looking at the description above of what stable means, I see the act of ‘staying stable’ as being both in body and mind.

The definition for structure being relevant for body – so trying my hardest not to let situations overturn me or cause me to give way, but to stay firmly fixed.

The definition for person being relevant for mind – so not letting things (like not being able to do day 5 of this writing challenge) upset me or disturb my balance but instead try to stay sane and also sensible.

This is so poignant for this time of year. It’s so easy to be so stressed, stretched and overloaded that we become unstable, when small things can cause us to become disturbed and overturn us. We cause people in our lives to walk on egg shells around us, scared of saying or doing something to tip us over the edge and unhinge us. That’s how much stability affects those around us as well as ourselves internally and physically.

So instead of choosing stress, anger or guilt from not doing a post yesterday, I accepted the disappointment. I chose to look at it from another perspective. I tried to focus on what I could do the next day instead of what I was unable to do. I read lovely comments people had made about my days 1 – 4 posts and it gave me smiles instead of frowns.

So when the roast potatoes burn, take lots of deep breaths, accept the disappointment & be glad you have mashed potatoes done. When the Mother-In-Law isn’t that impressed with her present, smile through gritted teeth and don’t let it take your stability away.

So todays reflection is a reminder from this – that in those times we have a choice = stress or stability. I hope this Christmas Season you choose STABILITY too.

Please join me tomorrow for Day 7 of 12 Days of CHRISTMAS REFLECTIONS

Dont worry if you missed earlier reflections as you can click on them below to have a quick read of them: 

Day 1: “DON’T GET YOUR TINSEL IN A TANGLE

Day 2: “PRESENCE over PRESENTS

Day 3: “LIFE is FRAGILE like a Christmas Ornament”

Day 4: “Even Sand can STAND, when it is designed to fall!”

Each days chosen Christmas picture will also be shared on my INSTAGRAM  and my PINTEREST accounts too, so click the links and keep up to date with my Christmas Picture CHEER 😉   

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“EVEN SAND CAN STAND WHEN ITS DESIGNED TO FALL” Day 4 of 12 Days of CHRISTMAS REFLECTIONS with HELEN’S JOURNEY 

So todays countdown is 9 days until we wave in Christmas Day 2017. Some people find counting down the days exciting, while others find it pressuring.

However it makes you feel, I invite you to join me each of the 12 days till Christmas, as I share daily Christmas Reflections and of course an accompanying Christmas image! (I just love taking photos & sharing pictures lol)

Todays chosen image below, is of presents under a Christmas tree, however this is no ordinary Christmas Tree. This Christmas Tree is actually made of pure sand!!!

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Day 4 of 12 Christmas Image of a Sand Christmas Tree & Presents

This was part of the 2017 ‘American Sand Sculpting Championships’ in which no props were used to help this sand tree stay erected off the ground & stay standing up high. These skilled sand sculptures use only sand, water & tools such as brushes, etc. I see them as skilled engineers 😉

This made me reflect upon hard times in life:

  • When things seem to be falling apart.
  • When everything around us is telling us to stop trying.
  • When things just don’t feel right.
  • When we feel everything is pointing to it being time to give up.
  • When we are seriously wondering what is the point anymore.
  • When nothing we try seems to be working.

Those times are when the critics of this sand tree pipe up; they question the science behind this erected sand tree being possible, they accuse the sculptures of cheating, they don’t believe the rules or honesty of the whole competition, they call it all a scam. They basically tear it to shreds.

My point; in those hard times listed above, stop your mind from turning into that sceptical critic! Instead, try to keep the HOPE of Christmas alive throughout the rest of the year.

The hope that no matter how many critics tell you:

  • To give up.
  • That your business idea is destined to fail.
  • That doctors that say there isn’t anything left to try to help your health anymore.
  • That your goal is impossible with the limited tools you have.
  • That you are too limited by the rules & regulations from the government to succeed.
  • That you wont be able to stand on your own two feet, etc

STOP. PAUSE. In your mind PICTURE this standing sand tree defying odds, and sand is actually standing & staying high into the air even when it’s designed to stay down on the ground. It has no rods inside to keep it from falling and it isn’t propped up. However, it is constructed perfectly to stay erect, even with the limited tools used.

REMIND yourself in those moments of doubt:

  • You can succeed if you keep trying.
  • Goals can be reached if you persevere.
  • You can stay standing even when things try to knock you down.
  • You can make things even when your resources are limited.
  • You can achieve even when restricted by rules.

That air of HOPE that Christmas brings, the magical mist that surrounds traditions, people coming together, people joining in, teamwork, supporting each other, helping others, looking out for the lonely, deprived or homeless… It shouldn’t all be restricted to only this time of year. Let’s try to be conscious of keeping it continuing into the New Year too and beyond!

Please join me tomorrow for Day 5 of 12 Days of CHRISTMAS REFLECTIONS

Dont worry if you missed earlier reflections as you can click on them below to have a quick read of them: 

Day 1: “DON’T GET YOUR TINSEL IN A TANGLE

Day 2: “PRESENCE over PRESENTS

Day 3: “LIFE is FRAGILE like a Christmas Ornament”

Each days chosen Christmas picture will also be shared on my INSTAGRAM  and my PINTEREST accounts too, so click the links and keep up to date with my Christmas Picture CHEER 😉   

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“LIFE IS LIKE A FRAGILE ORNAMENT” Day 3 of 12 Days of CHRISTMAS REFLECTIONS with HELEN’S JOURNEY

So todays countdown is 10 days until we see Christmas Day 2017. Some people love Christmas & the joy in counting down the days, while others get more stressed the closer the date gets to 25th December.

However it makes you feel, I invite you to join me each of the 12 days till Christmas, as I share daily Christmas Reflections and of course an accompanying Christmas image! (I just love taking photos & sharing pictures lol)

Todays chosen image below, is of crystal glass angel Christmas ornaments. To some maybe a reminder of the angels part in the nativity story, appearing to Mary, Joseph and the shepherds to deliver the News of ‘Jesus’ (originally ‘Yeshua’ in Hebrew).

When I first saw them in person, i just fell in love with them, so pretty and precious. However, looking at them today with fresh eyes, they make me think they represent just how fragile life can be. More of a reflection of whats going on for me & my family right now, but a reminder for all.

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Life is fragile. precious and a treasure!

Yesterdays post relayed the importance of “PRESENCE over PRESENTS” this Christmas, but the message of these ornaments take it a step further… Don”t just be present in special moments with people but also value them for how precious they are! Memories with loved ones that will stay alive even when the people in them aren’t alive anymore.

These angel ornaments each hold a different symbol in their hands: one a heart, one a star and the third a trumpet. Looking at them through my creative eyes, each symbol carries with it an extra meaning.

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The heart symbol, not only a symbol of love and I think of Joy also. So not only to value life, but to actually put our hearts into living it and enjoying it with joyous hearts.

The star in the Christmas story is a symbol of announcement and of navigation, telling the wise men of the Birth and to show them where to travel to find him. So knowing how fragile life is, we need to live it with direction and conviction. Knowing what your passion is, your purpose, your gift, your calling – it directs your life, your career, your hobbies. Those are your christmas star reflections with helens journeystars in life, telling you what you were born to do and following its direction.

The trumpet is a much talked about instrument in the Bible, but especially in verses about the last days in the book of Revelation. As a nation in the UK we seem to feel uncomfortable in talking about death, but that is a big thing we should be thinking about esp if you believe a day will come where you either go to heaven or hell or for other religions if you become reincarnated etc. Maybe it’s a reminder that as I believe, there is a spiritual realm after death, christmas trumpets with helens journeythat death or the afterlife shouldn’t be ignored?!

The angels themselves a reminder of how precious life is, these crystal ornaments can get chipped, cracked and ultimately shattered into pieces. That is the reality of life, our life as we know it can be turned upside down in an instant. I’m not trying to be morbid talking about death, but instead, using death’s harsh reality as a push for us all to appreciate how easily life can change or be taken away. As a result we should value life even more! ❤

Please join me tomorrow for Day 4 of 12 Days of CHRISTMAS REFLECTIONS

Dont worry if you missed earlier reflections as you can click on them below to have a quick read of them: 

Day 1: “DON’T GET YOUR TINSEL IN A TANGLE

Day 2:PRESENCE over PRESENTS

Each days chosen Christmas picture will also be shared on my INSTAGRAM  and my PINTEREST accounts too, so click the links and keep up to date with my Christmas Picture CHEER 😉   

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“PRESENCE over PRESENTS” DAY 2 of 12 DAYS of CHRISTMAS REFLECTIONS with HELEN’S JOURNEY

What do you remember the most – your christmas presents or the people who are present?

 

So today marks 11 days until Christmas Day 2017 is here. For some the thrill of the countdown is part of the Christmas excitement they have this time of year and for others it is just a reminder of there being one less day to get everything ticked off their ‘TO DO’ list. 

However it makes you feel, I invite you to join me each of the 12 days till Christmas, as I share daily Christmas Reflections and of course an accompanying Christmas image! (I just love taking photos & sharing pictures lol)

Todays chosen image below, is a beautiful display of Christmas pressies. How exciting would it be to wake up on christmas morning and see this pile of presents waiting there to be ripped open and they are all for you!

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Chosen Christmas image for Day 2 of 12

Well sorry to disappoint and burst the bubble of illusion, but they are actually fake. My friend Tara is AMAZING at arts, crafts, DIY and decorating, so Christmas is the perfect time for her to show off her skills by decorating the house. These are empty boxes saved throughout the year so at Christmas they can be transformed into these beautiful pressies.

This got me thinking, can I really look back over the years and remember all the presents I’ve gotten for Christmases past? No not all of them, I certainly can’t. But I can look back at Christmases past and remember all the people that were actually there, who shared in celebrations with us, who was playing along in all the Christmas games.

I’ll always remember how much of a cheat my Nan is at pictionary, writing down words then scribbling them out trying not to get caught! I cherish even more the presence of my late Grandad being there for all those Christmases past, now he can’t be here for any more, wearing his Christmas ties that lit up or played a Christmas tune when you pressed it. *fond, fond memories*

It’s moments we remember!

The presents might as well be empty, as in years down the line it’s people’s presence we remember – not all the presents we got.

Life is so fragile and precious. I know in my Grandads last days on earth, feeling the presence of those around him being by his side and feeling the presence of love and care in the air – I know it brought him peace and comfort. Your presence could mean the world to someone and you could miss that because you are so focused on what present you got them, if they will like it or what present they got you.

So of course enjoy the whole ‘presents’ side of Christmas; the planning, the buying, the wrapping, the giving, the receiving. But at the same time remember to be present in those moments as they happen, savour and enjoy the people in your presence this Christmas time. ❤

Please join me tomorrow for Day 2 of 12 Days of CHRISTMAS REFLECTIONS. Each day the chosen Christmas pictures will also be shared on my INSTAGRAM and my PINTEREST accounts too, so click the links and keep up to date with my Christmas Picture cheer 😉

Click here for the whole CHRISTMAS REFLECTIONS COLLECTION to have a quick read of them & they are all relevant to make this the BEST CHRISTMAS DAY ever, with perspective, clarity and a joyful heart

Or see below for a list of all my short reflections & click on the title you’d like to read:

 “DON’T GET YOUR TINSEL IN A TANGLE

 “LIFE is FRAGILE like a Christmas Ornament”

“Trying to stay STABLE while we celebrate the Stable”

“Even Sand can STAND, when it is designed to fall!”

“Remember the small stuff”

“Keep OLD Traditions but don’t forget to make NEW ones!” 

“Remembering the Reason for the Season!”

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“DON’T GET YOUR TINSEL IN A TANGLE!” Day 1 of 12 Days of CHRISTMAS REFLECTIONS with HELEN’S JOURNEY

Childhood Christmas memories that can give you life lessons when you’re older:

So today marks 12 days until Christmas 2017 is upon us. For some its exciting and for some it’s a reminder of how few days they have left to do so many things. 

However it makes you feel, I invite you to join me each of the 12 days till Christmas, as I share daily Christmas Reflections and of course an accompanying Christmas image! (I just love taking photos & sharing pictures lol)

Todays chosen image is of a Christmas Mug that caught my eye while out shopping, clearly not for its beauty or magnificence but for its slogan; “DON’T GET YOUR TINSEL IN A TANGLE”

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For me, this slogan instantly gave me flashbacks of my Dad sitting on the living room floor trying to untangle the Christmas tree lights. Every year my mom would say “Why don’t we just buy some new lights” because to her it looked an impossible, annoying task or a boring waste of precious time as there was so much on her minds ‘To Do’ list to do instead so all is ready for Christmas Day.

Yet my father, saw it as less of a chore and more of a challenge. He actually enjoyed untangling them as if it was a quest on Crystal Maze (a puzzle solving game show for those that don’t know it.) Once he’d gotten through the untangling process, then came the testing of the lights to see if they all lit up or some bulbs needed replacing. Sure enough most years there were new bulbs needed, but once replaced they worked perfectly.

It posed a question to ask ourselves today:

“Are we REPLACERS or RESTORERS?”

Would we throw our tangled tinsel away and buy new untangled tinsel, or would we give it time, patience, concentration and TLC to try to untangle our tinsel?

It made me realise that we do this the rest of the year too, some of us see buying new things as an easier solution and others see fixing the old so they work again as the answer. My conclusion is both are useful reactions but to different things in life. Sometimes “Replace the old with the new” is the right trail of thought, other times “The grass isn’t always greener on the other side” is needed to remind us to work on what we have instead of what else we could have instead.

We just need the wisdom to know the difference and when we need to be restorers or replacers!

Who knew a quote on a Christmas mug that initially made me laugh, would then bring Christmas memories to mind that would create such questions as these?! Lol

Please join me tomorrow for Day 2 of 12 Days of Christmas Reflections! 

Each day chosen picture will also be shared on my INSTAGRAM and PINTEREST accounts too, so click the links and keep up to date with my Christmas Pictures cheer 😉

Click here for the whole CHRISTMAS REFLECTIONS COLLECTION to have a quick read of them & they are all relevant to make this the BEST CHRISTMAS DAY ever, with perspective, clarity and a joyful heart.

Or see below for a list of all my short reflections & click on the title you’d like to read:

PRESENCE over PRESENTS

 “LIFE is FRAGILE like a Christmas Ornament”

“Trying to stay STABLE while we celebrate the Stable”

“Even Sand can STAND, when it is designed to fall!”

“Remember the small stuff”

“Keep OLD Traditions but don’t forget to make NEW ones!” 

“Remembering the Reason for the Season!”

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Making Friends with Grief! How grief can sometimes be met in a more soothing way by making comforting choices.

Today marks the 1 year anniversary of my Grandad Mac dying. He lived to the mighty age of 99 years and 2 months old.

Today I had a choice. I could wake up and only focus on the heartache and pain from missing him and once again get dragged down into that dark pit of sadness.

Or I could wake up and make friends with the grief, in order to feel more than the sadness I already know.

 

How to deal with grief in a positive way:

Now that may seem like a weird thing to say. Just how can we make friends with an emotion that comes from loss and despair? Well that is because although we can’t stop the nagging pain from the gap they left in our lives, we can choose how we respond to it.

So, instead of waking up and just crying being overpowered by grief and all the sadness it brings. I decided I’d make friends with the grief, identifying it as ignoring it doesn’t work and acknowledge the way it makes me feel.

Then I decided to use these raging emotions and tame them into something that promotes comfort and showers the despair of grief with love and soothing memories. That output for the grief for me, was writing.

Using writing to deal with emotions:

There was so much I had inside that I wanted to write about Grandad today, that no Facebook status or tweet could capture or satisfy. So instead I found myself writing away and in the end I created this poem:

 

A Toast to Grandad;

Here is to his smile, his loving eyes and even his frown. His uncontrollable burst of laughter when he thought you’d done something, that to him was as funny as a clown.

When you were down, his ability to lift your spirits to 100 feet tall. Not forgetting his loving touch of a individual nickname for us all.

For all his stories, his tales and his amazing memory oh so clear. The love in his voice when talking about Ireland, the home he held so dear.

Although he experienced hardships as a young man and as a boy, He was determined to live out life with laughter and with joy.

Here’s to his songs, the folk tales and to all his memorised pose. Not forgetting the tunes he would hum, to get everyone tapping their toes.

Here’s to his advice, knowledge and opinions, he was happy to lend. For his carpentry masterpieces and the clever ways he knew how to mend.

Here’s to the hugs, kisses and handshakes, when you’d greet him in his chair. He’d amaze you with seeming youthful and not just for the 99th year of a full head of hair.

For his humour and banter that stayed throughout ill health. Not forgetting all his life accomplishments, through hard work and stealth.

The cheeky grin on his face when he knew he’d got a rise. But it was in a loving jest, that the knot around you was tied.

For his soft love and his hard love – either way there’s never a doubt, that he loved all of his family, by an immeasurable amount.

He held each of us dear for our own individual ways, That reciprocated love is what means,in our hearts he always stays.

He left us all making the promise, that as a family we’d stay close. So thank you for joining me, in making the legend this toast.

Sláinte!

making friends with grief. how to deal with grief positively. A poem by helen's journey blog www.helensjourney.com

Finding comfort in photos of those no longer with us:

I also looked through old pictures and used some of them to make a collage, merging images of Grandad throughout the years all together – this was somehow therapeutic for me.

Again the driver for doing this was grief, but the outcome of creating something from it, gave me a dose of comfort, a warm smile and a hug for my hurting heart.

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Bernard “Brian” McMahon born 27th August 1917 in Galway, Ireland.

 

Making comforting choices when it comes to grief:

So, remember we always have a choice. I am not saying to ignore grief, as its a powerful emotion that I know personally can take you to some very low and dark places. It needs to be dealt with and acknowledged for all the things it stirs up in us. Some may even need professional help from a councillor to do this, which again I personally know can help you through the forest of despair and loss.

But after this. it is a powerful choice to then make friends with grief and use it to create something of comfort and a reflection of love for the lost. For me that was writing a poem, creating photo collages and writing this blog.

For you that may be scanning in old photos, singing songs they used to sing, making a toast with their favourite drink, making their favourite food for dinner, making a memory box, visiting a special place or sharing stories about them with others.

Whatever ways you deal with anniversaries of loved ones passing or the day to day gap they left in your daily living, I hope and pray that part of your process can be making friends with grief and therefore have the capacity to not only cry sad tears but also to then feed that friendship love, comfort and happy memories.

May all our friendships with grief blossom to radiate the love we feel for the ones we mourn!

 

Want to read some more of my poetry?

Here are some other poems I have shared (Click on the poem title to open poem in another tab) or you can find them under the ‘POEMS’ option in the blog menu):

“We are WOMAN”   – A celebratory poem for all that is ‘woman’ on International Women’s Day!

“Never Judge A Book By Its Cover”  – A poem I wrote when I felt that I was being judged and treated unfairly.

Fresh Hair of Bel Air – My creative twist on the ‘Fresh Prince Of Bel Air’ theme tune to express my feelings about the experience of donating 12 inches of hair to charity to make a wig for a child with cancer hair loss.

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